lördag 28 april 2018

Tim Pool and YouTube

Today I got a thumbnail on the screen: Tim Pool´s latest. It sounded interesting (something about YouTube) but when I clicked on it the whole YT page went blank and there was nothing!
What was this? I got curious and I watched another film with Tim Pool with the title There is No Future for ME Here.

Tim tells us about his difficulties in making his channel bigger. He is travelling much and needs the money that he can get from ads, but the YT logarithms seem to be working against him.
He has got 163 tn subscribers and this video is, after one day, shown more than 20.000 times. Isn´t that something to be satisfied with?

Hi Tim, maybe you should travel less and spend less money? Maybe a reporter that is flying all over the world has to be backed up by a company with money?

I like Tim because he is bright, intelligent, honest and also clever in making films. But good criticism is not of much value for a person who wants to get better / bigger.

He says that many stopped looking at his films. 
Yes, I also did. But I like him, so why did I? 

I think it was when all his thumbnails started to look the same. Almost the same photo of him and the texts look the same. I have to read them slowly to notice the difference between the films. There is no picture and no word that catches my attention more than the other ones. 
In a month he has made 30 new films - which one should I choose? Whichever I take I will still miss the other 29 ones, so...I avoid the problem by going somewhere else.

It is similar to buying tooth-paste. There are so many so I skip the whole idea and I do not buy any. All of them are different, but none stands out. Impossible to select one.
Of course it is good to have a personal style that is well recognized by people, but...? Which Coca Cola bottle should I choose if they all look the same but have different content? If I have to pick up every bottle and read the text it becomes too difficult.
It doesn´t matter if the mobile phones have a good brand if there are 30 different models in the same color and the differences are written somewhere.

Tim says that YT promotes people who make one film every day.

Really? Why? I do not understand that. I do not want to "follow" a person who makes a new film every day. It is too much. One good thing every week would be fine! The same day every week.

The old style is to listen to the Daily News on the radio / TV every day. But these news just quickly report the most important or dramatic happenings of the last day. Bang! Boom! And maybe you prepare some coffee and sandwiches while the TV is going bla-bla-bla-mumbo-jumbo in the background. You will still hear if the WW3 has broken out or not. So you know if you can go to bed calmly or if you have to escape to the caves in the mountains. To satisfy your survival instincts it is enough to catch the headlines and check other peoples´reactions. That is to be done on an everyday basis.

The film I looked at now is 24 minutes long! Even if I like Tim I cannot look at him for half an hour every day. He is not the only one I like. There are maybe 50 persons / channels on YT that I like. Imagine that every one makes a film of 30 minutes a day!!!! That makes 25 hours a day watching YT. It is not realistic! 

If Tim every day just made a quick summary of the hottest news on the planet....in around 5 - 10 minutes then maybe I would look at it. And then maybe another film with a short but clear analyse of the most interesting event, the one that dominates the day. If there is any.
If a truck has run into a crowd it is a dominating event and so it is when a Russian spy has been poisoned. Or a gas attack. Zuckerberg in the Senate´s hearing was also something special. It is possible to make a good, short analyse of such an event without having to fly to another country spending money on tickets and hotels.

It was quite heavy to listen to Zuckerberg in the Senate for so many hours just to be able to pick up the essentials. It also takes much time to try to find out what is really behind the Skripal case. It also can be difficult to know what channel to look at to be able to understand if there was a gas attack or not. I wouldn´t mind if someone else collected the most important links and presented them for me because it takes time to search for them.. A person who likes to be neutral can present both sides, with links to both sides. Maybe Tim and some friend could develop some News Agency, covering different topics...

It is of no use to fly to Syria because you cannot interview Assad anyway. Others have already done it. And there is of no use to fly to Salisbury and try to interview Yulia Skripal because they have hidden her somewhere. What people on the streets of Salisbury think is not interesting. They do not think more or better than we do.

Another thing is the language.

I live in Sweden and I would think that most people here cannot follow what Tim says because he talks too fast. Americans understand it but I suppose that Tim wants to attract people also in other countries. Even if I understand most of it I cannot make one second of reflection on a sentence, because then I miss the next sentence and I have to stop the film and go back. Often I also have to look up some words in Google Translate. To be able to do that I must hear the words clearly.
In this film he mentioned ”Schadenfreude”. If you do not understand German there is no chance to be able to catch that word.
So the 30 minutes become 40 minutes and the listening becomes an active work. Not for Americans but for people who do not have English as a mother tongue. To be actively working on listening to something requires that the speech is about something highly, highly interesting! And the listener must have a chance to contemplate, at least some seconds, on every major statement while listening, without having to stop the film.

Psychology (maybe it was Jung) says that you remember something if it is connected to an emotion. So if you put emotions into certain sentences those sentences will be better heard and better remembered. And... not too fast! An emotion has to have at least one second (or two) to be able to be created. If you put two different emotions into two different, opposite statements - then you will still be neutral.
Instead of putting nothing on the opposite sides of a scale you can put a stone on each side and the scale still remains balanced (horisontal). Maybe let it swing up and down on both sides, creating a little drama that catches attention.

Tim! If you do not travel so much you will save money and you will be able to work more on the background and adding pictures and so... Now I felt that I got distracted from seeing the same plastic slides in the park over and over again.
But one thing that is frustrating is when a person simultaneously speaks and shows a text. Many other people do that and I cannot focus on reading and listening at the same time.

Tim! If you stay home more and calm down you will get time to look at all those films that are about ”how to increase viewers” and ”how to speak” and so on. I do not know which ones are the best, I have just seen that they exist. I´m looking around now.

Listen to this guy, he has a good, moderate speed so it is possible to digest what he says while listening. I think he makes a one second pause after each sentence so I don´t have to stop the film to be able to catch what he says. 

But, on the other hand... if someone talks too slowly I will start thinking about something else and drift away and then I will also miss what has been said.

Here is a guy who is talking about how to talk in front of a camera. When we listen to a speach only 7 % is the words, 38 % is the tone of the voice and 55 % is the body language.

This lady in the next video has a nice balance of speed, intonation and body language.

So how is it with Tim?

Words. Too many too fast. At least for non-American people.
Tone. Kind of almost the same tone all the time.
Body language. Almost nothing.
The length of the video. Too long.
Layout. A little monotonous.
Camera. Tim is absolutely not camera shy, which can be a big problem for other people so most of the films about speaking that I find are about "How to overcome your fear". Tim is very clever in talking spontaneously, which for others can be very hard to learn. This is a big advantage as it is important.
So the other problems seem like ”something that could be quickly learned”. Just some lessons in ”speaking psychology”. There are films and courses... So many interesting things are waiting just around the corner.
Not to mention all the videos about "How to do... on YT"

He says that he gets stopped, but that is strange as he doesn´t have any controversal opinion. But... might be true anyway?

Tim speaks fast and it can be because he has so much to say and he has to squeeze all of it into a film of 25 minutes. Maybe the whole thing can be said slowly in 10-15 minutes (with some editing in advance.)
Professional radio-TV-speakers only use high speed when they talk about something really fast and dramatic, like some ongoing accident, maybe a street fight, or... ice-hockey ... football.... Long analytical thoughts are usually not presented in rally speed because people cannot follow it.

Maybe Tim also has a high speed because he thinks that he has to perform more and more, better and better and faster and faster. Maybe the solution is to calm down a bit.

It is very interesting to get a problem because it can open up the door to new insights!

When I listened to Tim I started to think about the problem that he presents and then I just began writing down anything that popped up in my mind.

But YT´s algorithm is something that I cannot even speculate about. 
That is for the "technical guys".

PS There is nobody that I look at every day at YouTube. Not even every week. There are people that I like that I do not even look at every month. Because periodically I have different interests.

onsdag 7 februari 2018

Can I ask a medium / spirit about just anything?

The other night I was meeting with some people and someone mentioned that an electrosensitive woman had asked a medium about her electrosensitivity, but not really got any good answer.
In Sweden we have a person, who is channeling a certain spirit and this is something that he has been known for a long time, more than 30 years. Many people admire him for this and travel a long way to meet him. They seem to believe that the spirit that "talks through him" knows everything just because he is a "well known spirit".

A spirit is "everywhere", isn´t he? Like the wind! So he must be capable of knowing everything! If not, can´t he just simply blow away in any direction and find out?
If you are trained as a shaman in the old way and also if you are for example a well trained Indian guru you know how to handle spirits. But in our society we do not. It is almost the opposite, that we wonder if they exist or not. But we often do not even know what we mean with this word spirit, or ande in Swedish. Often we think of a deceased person living in a subtle form in another realm of existence. Sometimes it is a shiny one residing on a higher plane and sometimes it is a ghost that has got lost "somewhere here" or it might be a demon from the Underworld. Sometimes it is someone who has never lived here on our planet and he can speak about kosmos and such big things like the meaning of life. Or it is your deceased grandfather who can tell you where he has hidden the family silver. 
Here the word spirit is used in the sense of a supernatural, invisible being, (this meaning is attested from mid-14c.)  The word spirit is used in different ways and has different meanings but that is another long story.  Read more ...

We can discuss how they exist and what they are made of, but if we get stuck in that question we will end up in physics and that will also be another story, probably quite a long one, maybe almost neverending.

We can just take it for granted now...
So for the moment we can just take for granted that those spirits, that are conscious corporeal beings of an airy nature do exist, because otherwise we will never get to the second question (how to deal with them). Even if spirits in reality should be just frequency patterns, similar to ideas and principles, that we can get into cohesion with, we can still use these airy bodies as symbols. How a principle can have arms and legs and a crown on his head is also another story!
When I take this for granted I also change my language to fit into that.

Illustration by Viveca Lammers

"How to deal with  spirits

First of all there are many different spirits, all kinds of them, innumerable airy figures. They are good, they are evil, small, big, shiny, dark, tricky, space commanders, angels, dragons, tree spirits, power animals, ancestors, aliens.... everything! 

If you develop the contact with one of them you will pick up these qualities and they will be part of you. It is like eating invisible food for the soul. The spirit creates you (by influencing your thoughts, emotions and behaviour) and you create the spirit (by giving your energy to it). It seems like many spirits are interested in catching our attention, even fighting about getting us. 

According to my old shaman friends (and others) a spirit cannot have any inflence over you and it cannot do you anything, unless you invite it. But focusing much on the same principle and "living it" is the same as inviting. A sudden emotion can be the same as inviting when it gives you inspiration that you follow. The word is made up from in + spiritus and it is the same root as in the word spirare, to breathe. You breathe in something. 
That´s why the Indian gurus talk so much about not being a victim of sudden reactions. When you suddenly react strongly you can see it as a spirit that is getting you on his hook. An intense thought that you hold is also inviting the spirit of the thought and it fills you with the correspondent feeling, which can take over. 

There is not much difference between a spirit and a god. If you call in a spirit it becomes a god, because the old German word god means "the one that is invoked". In this sense there are innumerable gods. In Swedish we can say trädanden, the tree spirit, but we can also say trädguden, the tree god. The meaning behind the worshipping of a god is that one should get into cohesion with the principle and thus get transformed by it.

Inviting a spirit (god) is either made unconsciously or it is made consciously by you, by a priest, a shaman or a medium. A priest is usually having a temple and focusing on only one god and here we can talk about the Latin word for god, which is deus, a word that originates from the root dyeu-, to shine, which has also given the Sanskrit word deva. A deus is a shining spirit that lives on a higher plane, in a heaven. Such a deva is worshipped with light, fire, prosperity, pearls, flowers, jewelry, harmonic music and everything that creates beauty, joy and happiness.

A shaman has specialized on his personal choice of gods, which are spirits that he can invoke for various reasons. It can be some ancestor. It can be a Power Animals, which gives the shaman the special ability that is typical for that animal. He can get into symbiosis with it, even totally going into trance. He can make a jorney out of the body and in this way get information. In India some gurus can do the same, they can use remote viewing to get information, without losing consciousness. Even children can do that, if they are initiated into the use of the third eye.

Now I get to the point.
A minor spirit cannot answer all possible questions. He is not the king of everything - he is a specialist. If he is 3000 years old and lived in Egypt he will not be of much use for an eskimo, who wants to know how to get fish. This eskimo will get more out from asking a lokal water spirit.

So whatever you want to ask about you will have to adress the spirit that "belongs to that question". It is the same in our physical world: whatever you want to ask about, buy or getting repaired you must know to go to the right place and ask the right person. To ask about the car, it is better to call the garage mechanic than to call the dentist.

A spirit does not know everything just because he is a spirit. So you cannot give any kind of question to just any spirit. Spirits are like bubbles that contain different kinds of knowledge. They dwell in different worlds. The are like different kinds of melodies. Like different books. You do not open the French grammar if you want to learn German.

You have to contact the spirit that is not just an "invisible being" - you have to contact the representative of the inner essence of your problem or question. If that one does not exist you will have to create it.

When it comes to the spirits the real shaman knows which one to ask. If he doesn´t have any contact with the one that suits your problem he cannot help you and he will send you to someone else. It was the same among the old wise women in our part of the world. They could do different things.

So if you want to ask a spirit about electrosensitivity you will have to adresse a spirit that is connected to this issue. But which one is that? It is the one that you slowly get more and more in contact with when you focus with full intention on the subject.
It is quite difficult with some kind of "direct information" because a spirit can talk with symbols and concepts and you will have to focus not on electricity (if your problem is electrosensitivity) but on the body and the psyche (if that is where you experience the effects). If you do not exactly know what you mean with electrosensitivity the spirit will not know it either. His own expression for such an experience would probably be "bad spirit". You might not speak the same language (use the same symbols). 

The best is not to ask a special spirit (just because he is famous!) because it might be the wrong one. The best is to ask straight out or at least the highest god that one can think of, because that will include a lot of other spirits and also include some protection. And focus very much on the question, really loudly demanding an answer. But don´t ask about "something else". Focus on yourself and ask about yourself and then wait. The answer can come from just anywhere and it can come after a long time. Or a piece here and a piece there, so it is important to look closer at everything.
But if you just passively wait for an answer the spirit might think that you are not seriously interested in the question and he might drop you. Search for the answer everywhere and show that you mean what you say! Then the spirit will guide you and maybe make you find the right book and open the right page. But that requires focus and persistance and an open mind. Follow inspiration.

Hyper-sensitivity and psychic reactions can be part of that learning process that in ancient time was initiated in mystery temples with the help of psychedelic drugs and various ceremonies. We have heard about the horrors that the shaman´s apprentice has to go through before he gets his final status. Today we have psychedelic frequencies in the air and they can have the same effects as chemical drugs. 
The big question here cannot be solved by someone else and someone else´s spirit in just one session. You will just get a wise but in the same time quite easy answer. You might get the answer that you should "move to another place", but you will not get a long lesson about the effects in the body in connection with all different electrical things. If you don´t know why you have to move you might move to the wrong place. You might get the answer that you have to "change your thinking" but if you don´t know what it means it doesn´t help. 

If it was possible to get a quick answer from someone else´s spirit every shaman would just have got his whole education for free by just getting the right answer from the old shaman´s personal spirit during a little session by the fire one evening. 
A person, with an activated third eye, can find answers that she has never heard about before, but your spirit will guide you to find the right thing in your own memory among everything that you have stored (and "forgotten"). It works like a search engine. So the more information you collect the more tools your spirit will have access to. It might also put you in contact with someone who has good answers. A real living person, who can tell you more. It is not so that all the specialists have died and become spirits.

The answer in this case consists of many, many small answers to many, many minor questions that arise from a conscious introspection during a learning process that can take years.

Our western view on spirituality is so much inflenced by the Christian Church that we use this "church-thinking" also when it is about shamanism and spirits. If someone "has a spirit", that he can talk to and get answers from, people get so impressed that they think that this spirit is "the best" (in the same way as we have been taught in the church that our God is the best and the "only one") and whatever answer that is delivered from it, that is the best one, so there is no need to continue listening to anything else. But the best for you is your own spirit and not someone else´s. It is like your inner flashlight that you can take with you and use many times everywhere. Charge it with talking to it. Light a candle for it. Use your fantasy!

Can I ask a medium / spirit about anything?

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SPIRITS Do they exist?

Some "believe in spirits" and some say that "spirits do not exist" but usually most people do not even try to figure out what it is that they are talking about. What is the meaning behind the word? What is it that we say does not exist? Usually we talk about our own fantasy about it, but we do not have the same fantasy so we can talk about different things without even noticing it. 

The word spirit and the word god are almost impossible to use as we don´t share any common interpretation of them. We have different ideas.

It is not possible to even think about shamanism without having to be confronted with all those spirits that the shamans and medicine men are calling in. It can be ancestors and power animals or the spirit of rain, the spirit of the river or especially the spirit of a hallucinogenic plant.
In ceremonies the various spirits have to be invoked, maybe on the different places on the medicine wheel or together with the medicine pipe.

Those people do of course not use the Latin word spirit. They have their own names for all those invisible friends and all those words are usually translated to spirits, so it can be of interest to know what the word means. The original meaning has to do with something invisible (of an airy nature) that you breathe in (and get an animating effect from). An earlier word for it was animus, which comes from the Proto-Indo-European root ane-. to breathe.

Illustration by Viveca Lammers


Inspiration, energy, vitality
The word spirit corresponds well to our Swedish word ande. It comes from the verb spirare, which is to breathe. Ande is from andas, which also means to breathe. A spirit is something that is in the wind, in the air and it is something that we can take in, breathe in. We can be filled with spirit, have high spirit or get inspiration. It is to be filled with life-force and vitality. L´esprit in French. When you get inspiration you also get energetic ideas about what to do. It comes from in + spir. It can be translated as taking in a spirit. The old root is (s)peis, to blow.

Angel, demon
From mid 14c spirit means an "invisible corporeal being of an airy nature", a supernatural transparent being like an angel or a demon. 
From late 14c it can be a ghost, a disembodied spirit of a dead person, walking around and scaring people.

Inner essence
From around 1500 it could mean the nature of something, the inner essence of it, the essential principle of it. We have the famous Spirit of St.Louis and we can also say the spirit of Paris, the spirit of the blues. Essential nature, essential quality.
In late 14c it is the volatile substance in alchemy and it also gets the meaning of alcohol around 1670. In Swedish alcohol is sprit. 
It is not strange that they have called alcohol spirit as alcohol  gives changes in the psyche, which was just another word with the same basic meaning as spirit, derived from the root bhes-, to blow, to breathe. 

How you think and feel
Also from mid-14c. as "character, disposition; way of thinking and feeling, state of mind and "source of human desire".

The Holy Ghost, divine mind
Late 14c.: "Divine substance, divine mind, God, Christ or His divine nature. Spiritus Sanctus, the Holy Spirit (Ghost) Divine power;  extension of divine power to man; inspiration, a charismatic state; charismatic power, especially of prophecy. (Divine = reflecting the deus, the shiny one.)

Christian terminology made a distinction between soul and spirit: anima / spiritus in Latin and psyke / pneuma in Greek. Pneuma also means wind and comes from pnein, to blow, to breathe, and the root is the Proto-Indo-European pneu- to breathe. The word psyche comes from the PIE root bhes-, to blow, to breathe.
So one can wonder if there was any original difference in the meanings of the different roots that meant blow and breathe! We have now got ane-, (s)peis, pnein and bhes- for air, wind and breathing and they are all being used for a life giving force, that we get energy from and "filled with".

The word god comes from the root ghut- which means "that which is invoked". So the spirit becomes a god when you start praying to it and calling for it.
It is not the same meaning as in the Latin word deus, which means "the one that is shining". That word is used in the Latin world: dio in Italian, dieu in French and so on... but we translate it with god. The root is dyeu-, to shine.
But we translate deus with god, even if it is not exactly correct according to the basic meanings of the words. If you do not invoke the shiny one he is not your god. And if you invoke the spirit of the river she will be your goddess.

As both anima, spiritus, psyke and pneuma originate from roots with the same meaning: to blow, to breathe. it means that this variation does not really reflect any basic truth. It is simply not true that we are made up from these different parts. They have changed meanings many times and they have replaced each other when writers have got new ideas or made translations. 

So it is useless to try to figure out the ”real” difference between soul, psyche, mind and spirit etc. by comparing European texts and translations. The only thing you can do with that is to get a Ph.D. in linguistics / religion. How our mind /spirit / soul works is probably best told in Sanskrit, but as soon as we start translating the words it gets lost. You will have to get it explained from someone who is fluent in sanskrit and also well trained in spirituality. But... only explained and not translated!
If you get it from another old language, as for example from some old Native American Indian tradition, you will have to remain in that bubble of references and then you will experience their world from inside. Translations create confusion as the words being used do not mirror each other.

In a conversation we just have to decide upon the mening of the word before we start using it and arguing about the eventual existence of it. First we can ask: What is the meaning of "inner essence".

söndag 4 februari 2018

A new Talking Stick

Yesterday I made a new Talking Stick. I have left place for personal symbols to be painted on the stem . So one day there might be more decorations on it, more personal ones, if the person that I gave it to is interested in that. The fur on it is rabbit fur which is symbolic for the ability to listen carefully "with long ears".

Handmade by Viveca Lammers

lördag 3 februari 2018

Why do I not answer directly on Facebook?

Sometimes I find a question or a statement that triggers a feeling that urges me to make an answer in Facebook and immediately I start writing down an answer as a comment. I make it quick to be able to catch the impression that has come. But... if I find the subject interesting and worth commenting I also want others to understand what I mean, which can be difficult on Facebook. The text gets longer and longer and then it no more fits into Fb. 

We live in different mental bubbles.
Even if the text belongs to a group with "the same interest" all people live in different worlds with different ways of thinking (different mental bubbles) and our associations come from different educations, different memories, different cultures and different levels of consciousness. 
If you want another person to understand what you mean you will first have to lead that person to the space where you are (and then the other person has to lead you to her place) but that is not possible on Facebook where people  usually just attack each others opinions, starting from quite different mental places. We can say that Facebook triggers a behaviour that is the opposite of the behaviour that we can learn from the use of the Talking Stick. Answer quickly without listening too much!

Anyway... I start writing down my answer to catch the thougt (the concept) quickly and after a while, when I have written down 20 cm of text I hesitate, because now the subject starts opening up and more information and associations are coming. The writing turns my brain into a contemplation mode and I get into a flow that opens up the world behind the question. The associations come and I want to catch them all because they are like a big puzzle where no little peace should be missing.

Now my ascendent in Virgo starts living up and Virgo is the sign, the goddess of analytics, so now I start analyzing all my associations to check their validity. Then I get into contact with something that we can call "the spirit of the subject" and as long as the energy, the spirit, is there I can keep the flow and now the writing gets speedy till the energy is over (the spirit is gone). 
Now the text has become far too long to fit into a little comments box in fb, so I delete it and I put it on a document in my laptop. And then...either I forget about it or I put the text on a blog, which is a much better place for a long text. 

Then I get a comment from a friend, who says that the text is too long!!!
But for me blogs are much better places to put texts than just storing them in the pc and eventually never finding them again. 

It is tempting to start engaging in a discussion on fb, but such discussions are never real discussions about anything  - they usually tend to be just throwing around empty words. A word is not empty for the person who has thrown it away because it reflects his "inner puzzle", but for other people, who do not know anything about his mental and emotional background his words become empty. Another person´s words are empty to us before we have filled them with our own opinions and associations. But my understanding of your words might not at all be reflecting what you really mean!

Instincts activated
All this means that fb is a perfect place to turn people against each other. Everyone wants to be understood and if others misunderstand what you say you will feel misunderstood and the next thing is that you get sad and then it turns into anger. And the fight starts.
A fighting situation, even if only mental, triggers the lower brain and the fight-flight-impulses with cortisol and dopamin etc. and this takes over the brain in a way that the higher functions stop working. They are just cut off.

But this also means energy!!! The liver sends glucose to the brain and you will get a kick. This kick can, of course, be energizing so that you feel that you get energy and you feel bright and strong and smart and your thought process goes in full speed. But it also tells you thet you are in a fight that you have to win. The glucose is the speed sugar for attack, defense and survival.

Some people have made this into a sport. They either search for questions that they can easily attack or they constantly put out statements that they know are provocative. They know that others will be triggered to answer and then they get the desired fight that gives them the feeling of being a clever, intellectual debater who is seen and admired by the public. 
Many other people, who don´t know this, might do the mistake of answering with quite a good opinion, which immediately gets knocked down. This seems to have made Fb into something that is often quite boring as a lot of intelligent people have stopped saying what they really think, because they are tired of being always misunderstood.

Facebook - friends, war and nonsense.
But the method of the Talking Stick, that everyone should express himself to be understood by the others, is not possible here, because it would require too much writing and it would also require one person talking and twenty others just listening. So Fb is more like a cocktail party where you just float around and say: "How lovely you are"..."How sweet you look"..."My heart is with you".... "Have you seen my kittens"....
But.... many people have got tired of this polite nonsense so more and more groups are being formed to deal with real issues and at least here people have the same interest. But it does not always mean that people understand each others points of view. Because, as I said in the beginning, people are very much  different. 
In a religious sekt the leader wants the whole group to be in unison, to mentally, emotionally and spiritually sing the same kind melody. The group becomes like an entity with one spirit. 
In some Fb-groups you are not allowed to say "the wrong thing". You will immediately get attacked, which can be frustrating for new people who do not yet know what is being allowed. 

Most of us think that we should have free speach and that everyone has the right to express his own opinion. In the same time we attack each others opinions calling them wrong. Actually this is the meaning of a discussion, that two people should be handling the same question from two different points of view, where one acts as the prosecutor and the other one is the attorney of the defense. The prosecutor works with cutting the statement into pieces, i.e. destroying it and proving it to be wrong, while the attorney has to prove that the statement is right and valid. The word discuss comes from Latin discutere, which means to cut apart (to destroy).

That is also a valid way of handling a concept bacause our inner judge might be interested in knowing if the statement is true or fake and the best way can be to let it be attacked to see if it survives. 

I have heard that French people like discussions, that they like to let different opinions meet to see what will come out of it. I have got an impression that people from many countries are in that way and maybe it is mainly the Latin languages that give people the interest in debating everything loudly, as they know the meaning of the word discuss. When I came to Italy I first believed that people were really angry with each other when they were screaming about something. But as I understood what they said I found that they were "just talking". The shouting, screaming and waving with arms and hands was just someting normal for them. 

The Swede wants peace not war.
So it is not in Sweden!  Here rules the opposite! But normally we seem to have missed the point.
If you have the opposite opinion about something you will have to be very careful, because if you say it the other person might be offended. He will not be willing to start an interesting discussion, knowing that it is a fight between concepts. He will feel personally attacked (because he identifies with his opinion) and experience the eventual start of a fight between persons. A mental war is sailing up!!!! Horrible!!! Stop it! Run away!
The typical Swede is very much afraid of conflicts and if he just senses the minimum of "opposite opinions" in the air he will get afraid and then he will avoid the conflict by not answering or maybe even just walking away. He will presume that a mental war is approaching and we want peace, don´t we? On Fb this kind of person turns silent while the more aggressive ones get noticed, and it is here that we can notice our tendency to feel personally attacked from "another point of view". Small wars brake out everywhere and people call each other names instead of discussing the subject. Instead of even asking what you mean! 

Use a Talking Stick!
Peace is not created by avoiding everything, it is created by looking into the conflicts to see what they are made up from - before they grow too big. When conflicts start growing in the darkness they will often continue to grow until they get released with a sudden burst of energy. 

I would gladly take part in such a little mental war in reality, but it should be performed with a Talking Stick being sent around, as this method takes down the anger and promotes the understanding of different opinions. The Talking Stick, used in the right way, lowers the talking speed and prevents a conflict from collecting more hidden energy. It leads everyone into a more listening and receptive mood. 

That´s why!
That´s why I often answer by writing on the blog instead of writing directly on Facebook.
The text will also remain on it´s place so that I can use it again, putting it on also another place.

tisdag 12 december 2017

Kommunikation är inte bara att prata. Det är också att skriva.

Många är rädda för att skriva. Man är rädd för att göra fel och blir blockerad och kan inte komma på ett enda ord , så det finns skrivkurser, naturligtvis, och på många skrivkurser så lägger man tonvikten vid att få eleverna att våga.
”Skriv vad som helst! Skriv hur som helst! Skriv det du kommer att tänka på! Om du inte kan komma på något alls så skriv att du inte kan komma på något!”
Det är egentligen samma metod, som man använder med en Talking Stick. Om du inte vet vad du ska säga så säg bara precis det du upplever, nämligen att du inte vet vad du ska säga. När du väl kommit igång så lossnar det!

Av en kvinna, som arbetade som lärare, hörde jag att man använde en sådan metod även på lektionerna i konst / teckning. I alla fall så gjorde hon det. Dvs det var bara en uppmuntran till eleverna att våga göra något alls, för att de skulle komma loss och våga.

Jag sade att det där inte var en teckningslektion utan att det snarare var en psykologiskt inriktad lektion i att våga. Det innebar att en elev inte kunde göra något fel. Allt var rätt och riktigt och syftet var att eleverna då skulle få självförtroende. Ja, det var väl bra, men i så fall så borde man väl ha både den psykologiska övningen och en riktig, mer strukturerad teckningsundervisning. Man får inte bra självkänsla bara av att våga. Man får det också av att kunna något. 

På skrivkurser kan man alltså göra samma sak, man bara tränar på att kunna komma loss. Ja, det är väl bra, men det ska ju komma ett nästa steg också. Man ska kunna stava rätt. Nu har vi visserligen ordbehandlingsprogram, som rättar stavfel men ofta kan de göra fel. 
Sedan kommer vi till grammatiken, som ordbehandlingsprogrammet inte klarar. Meningarna måste vara uppbyggda på rätt sätt. 

Om man nu vågar skriva och om man även kan stava och bygga meningarna på rätt sätt så kan man ändå behöva redigera texten efteråt. När man börjat skriva kan man komma in i ett ”flyt” där det går i full fart så att man skriver allt man kommer på i den ordning som associationerna dyker upp och så kanske man också måste göra om man vill fånga flyktiga tankar som snabbt drar förbi. Det man då skriver är en fritext och en sådan måste redigeras, rättas och struktureras, vilket inte är så kul. Det kan vara ganska svårt, speciellt om texten är lång. 

På Facebook verkar alla texter vara fritexter, där både stavning och grammatik ofta kan vara helt fel. Det leder till missförstånd och folk börjar gräla hej vilt.
När vi pratar med någon "i verkligheten" så upplever vi i första hand personens utseende, känslan, mimiken och tonfallet. Orden upptar bara 7% av det vi tar emot. Hela detta paket triggar igång minnen, begrepp, associationer och bilder i vårt inre. Man kan känna hur den andra personen tänker och känner så att man spontant sätter in orden i rätt sammanhang.

När vi läser en text har vi bara orden. Vi har alltså tappat bort 93% av det som vi är vana vid att uppfatta och det betyder att orden nu får en enormt mycket större roll. Stavfel syns tydligt och ger en negativ känsla. Grammatiska fel kan göra att en skriven mening inte alls går att förstå. Ovanpå detta så gör man som man brukar: man ”känner” vad den andra personen menar, men man känner helt fel och sedan är grälet igång. Jag vet att många på grund av det har blivit rädda för att säga vad de tycker på Fb. Man bara klickar Gilla och svarar ”Fina du, vad du är söt!” och liknande. Eller så gör man en sport av att gräla och kallar sig debattör.

Om man inte har en levande person framför sig och i stället enbart använder skrivna ord så är det viktigt att man skriver rätt och är tydlig och man kan behöva vara övertydlig på samma sätt som man är övertydlig med sina gester när man enbart använder teckenspråk.

Men det är inte alls säkert att tydligheten hjälper eftersom folk i allmänhet inte kan grammatiken så särskilt bra. Man skriver en sak, men folk uppfattar något helt annat (i enlighet med sina egna minnen och känslor). 
Det verkar som om skolans grammatikundervisningen har kraschat. Speciellt med tanke på att så många inte ens kan skilja mellan de och dem, två böjningsformer som förmodligen snart är förpassade till gammelsvenskan. Förenkling låter ju bra, men det betyder också att det försvårar översättningar till andra språk. Om grammatiken är fel så kan man ofta inte se vad en mening betyder, inte ens om man försöker. Man gissar och tror att gissningen är detsamma som att man känner vad som menas. Och känslan ska man ju lita på, eller hur? Jo, men man kan känna både rätt och fel.
Jag gillar att skriva själva fritexten, men att sedan redigera kan vara både tråkigt och besvärligt.
Det bästa skulle naturligtvis vara att lyckas med att omedelbart strukturera flytet i tankegångarna, men då måste man bygga in en mall i hjärnan och det är väl det som utbildade journalister har gjort.

Om man vill lämna in en text till en tidning eller en myndighet så måste den vara strukturerad, klar och tydlig.
Läsarna ska reagera på den idé, den bild, som man vill förmedla. Om läsarna reagerar på ett stavfel, så gör det att de missar det som man egentligen ville att de skulle tänka på.
Problemet är att man fortsätter att läsa medan man reagerar. Det kan hända att man läser tre fyra rader utan att förstå vad man läser därför att man tänker: Vad är det här för ett stolpskott som inte kan stava...?

"Tänk om det viktigaste i hela din text 
ligger precis efter en felstavning eller efter något annat språkligt fel. 
Då kommer läsarna troligen att missa just det du helst av allt vill att de ska förstå.”

Här hittar vi uppmaningen Skriv mottagaranpassat!
Det betyder att man inte ska lämna in en ostrukturerad fritext till en myndighet, som är van vid extremt strukturerade texter, som närmast ger intryck av kalla, perfekta, fyrkantiga byggklossar. Att skriva en ostrukturerad text till dem resulterar inte i att man ”mjukar upp dem” och får dem att se regnbågar, fåglar och kosmiska sanningar.
Det skulle bara leda till att de tycker att skribenten är rörig (och förmodligen inte kan tänka klart och förmodligen också röker marijuana) och sedan lägger de skriften åt sidan och struntar i den.

Det finns också allmänna, svenska skrivregler.

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